Do you harbor the mindset of a queen or a servant?

Due to the many thousands of years of oppression of the feminine that we are still recovering from as a human race, you may have the mindset of a servant, and that’s not your fault. It’s been ingrained by society and passed down from your foremothers, so cut yourself some slack and know that you have the power to shift to a Queen mindset should you choose to.

If you’re like most women in the world, across time, space, and cultures, you have a very strong practice of giving up your own needs for the needs of others. You may be in the habit of putting your partner’s needs, your children’s needs, and your boss’s needs ahead of your own.

I can hear the justifications going off in your mind… “But I have to put my boss’s needs first or I’ll lose my job… I have to take care of my kids, or they will starve.” I hear you, and I encourage you to ask yourself if that is really true? Or is there another truth you could explore, in which you change your perception and pause long enough to nourish yourself before you feed your kids? Could you take care of your body in some way before you begin the next task at work?

 

Shifting to the Queen mindset does not have to be a massive overhaul; it doesn’t have to be a dramatic change. It’s the subtle changes you make that give way to your life unfolding with a sense of sovereignty.

Defining Sovereignty

Sovereignty is the authority to govern one’s own life with authenticity. This means that: 

 

• You make choices based on what you truly want and not because you feel pressured to do so.

   

• You pause throughout the day long enough to make sure you are resourced.

   

• You can be present with eachmoment and receive something joyful through the very act of being present.

   

• You have a strong connection to your body, and you know when something feels off—whether physical or spiritual.

   

Don’t worry, you are not alone if this is something you are still finding your way to. Some people never claim their sovereignty; they spend their entire lives doing for others and making choices based on others' needs and desires. You may have been passed down a strong AND unconscious belief that you are not worthy of all the riches you wish you had... Riches in intimacy, riches in time and space to do the things you love, and riches in health, home, and finances.

If this is not you, congratulations! While you are in the minority, you have done the inner work to break free from the invisible chains of feminine oppression, and just by doing this, you inspire others in your life to do the same. So, thank you!

 

But if that is not yet you, once you learn to embody the archetype of the Queen, you will quickly see that you are worthy of all those riches, and more! No one will create it for you—that’s part of the Queendom you are evolving into, learning how to let go of anythingthat is not bringing you closer to your highest potential and receiving anything that is.

 

You have everything you need within you to create a life where you are showered in blessings and gifted with grace, but you may need some support in learning how to use what’s in you.

 

The Three Steps to Embodying the Queen

As you initiate yourself into Queendom, there will be some decisions to make, there will be some things to let go of, and there will be moments of expansion that you’ll doubt you are capable of. But rest assured: if you’re feeling stretched and uncomfortable, you’re on the right path!

Step 1: Uncover and Clear the Inhibitors

Uncovering the layers of doubt, fear, and shame that inhibit your sovereignty is the first step to embodying the Queen. The Queen is the Empress of the heart. The heart and the small intestine are paired together in Chinese medicine and they are ruled by fire.

Since the small intestine is all about separating nutrients from waste (the pure from the impure), it gives you the magical powers of discernment! If the small intestine gets overwrought with too much to digest (in life, and on your plate), it will not have the space it needs to discern well.

Step 2: Master Your Discernment

The second step to embodying the Queen is mastering your discernment. Get this superpower dialed in and you’ll eliminate a lot of pain and heartache that takes you off course and scatters your chi.

You may have heard of the gut-brain connection. The brain in your head and the brain in your gut both have pathways that mirror each other. This is it: discernment—knowing what is nourishing for you and what is toxic.

Learning to discern and follow your truth brings you into a state of congruence, and when you are in that state, life falls into place and the gifts rain down. Your truth comes from your heart, which is also a pathway center in your body.

These three brains—the head, heart, and gut—all need to be in agreement about your relationship, your work, your health, your family, your home, and how you move through the world. Then you will be embodying the Queen.

If something is not in alignment with you becoming the Queen of your own life, then send it to the waste; don’t entertain it or let it into your heart space. If something is showing up in support of you becoming the Queen, even if it scares you, say yes to it.

Step 3: Awaken to Receptivity

The third step to Queendom is receptivity. Receiving is the feminine's greatest power, yet most women are terrible at it. The truth is that receiving involves non-doing, and non-doing has been highly undervalued for eons. But here we are, learning how to receive as a collective. No matter your gender, becoming a master at receiving will change your life for the better.

To begin your practice of receiving:

1. Close your eyes and tune into your sense of sound.

2. Listen to the furthest away sound.

3. Then, listen to the closest sound.

4. Finally, listen to the sound of your own breath.

Awaken your sensual ears and listen. When you are truly listening, you are in the present moment, and you can only receive what is happening in the present moment. You can receive sounds as a tangible practice, but you can also receive feelings, gifts, love, compliments, touch, and wisdom. What are you receiving right now at this moment?

Stepping Onto the Throne

There are many layers to Embodying the Queen and there are many sectors of your life in which to do that. The question is, where do you need support in embodying the queen in your life right now? Is it in multiple sectors or just a few specific ones?

No matter where you are in your journey to embodying the Queen, I’ve got your back and I’m here to support you in stepping into full regality and taking the throne of self-worth and expansion as your own.

 

Light and Love, Dr. Willow Brown

(Beautiful Photo Credit: Cuau Zarate)